A few nights ago Brad was putting Charlie to bed. It was taking him quite a long time but it didn't phase me because he will often lay with her in the dark and cuddle. I know those are his quiet moments to love on Charlie and miss Linda. And that is okay. I was reading to the little boys on the couch when Ryen came running to me trying not to cry. She said, "Holly, I think you need to go comfort my dad. He is on Charlie's bed crying." Right then, Carter, Mallory, and Charlie came running down the hall looking a little scared.
I quietly crept into Charlie's bedroom and laid down beside Brad. He immediately reached for me and continued to cry and cry and cry. I was glad to be there for him and wished that it didn't have to hurt so badly. That is one benefit to marrying a widower, we go through the same things and there are no feelings of jealousy for one another's spouses. Sometimes triggers hit us at unexpected moments and there is not a darn thing you can do about it. That night's trigger was the quilt on Charlie's bed. It is made out of Linda's clothing. She has had it on her bed for a few weeks now and Brad has seen it dozens of times but something caught him off guard and released the flood gates. After Brad was mostly done crying we laid on the quilt while he pointed out Linda's favorite shirts, capris, etc.
When we finally emerged from the pool of tears Mallory (age nine) slipped up next to Brad, put her arm around his waist, and gave him a card she made for him.
I know it is hard to lose someone you love with all your heart. I am so sorry. I know how you feel. It is hard when you lose pepole. It breaks your hearts when pepole pass on. It will never be the same without them. This song I made because of you when you were sad. I made a song because Kaleb was sad because Jayden, he sits on the bus with, made him sit with me and Maddie. So I made a song that is..."It is time to be happy, it is time to have freinds." Then when you were crying I made a song that is..."Dreams will come true, hearts will be successful. I will wait for you in the glory sky." Brad thank you for helping me. You really are supper man. Oh step familys aren't as bad as I thought. You rock oh and good luck.
The little thumbs up sticker says, "P.S. Familys are foever, even with step familys"
The picture has all of the Rowbury family on the left and all of the Rasmussen family on the right. It was so cute. Brad and I were both choking back tears. She sang the little songs for us and gave him a big hug. I was so thrilled with the change we have seen in Mallory. She really struggled with the whole situation when we got married. She was by far my biggest obstacle. She has done a complete turnabout and is now one of the easiest kids to work with. She is such a tender little heart.